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The best of me is not attached to what I am to someone else. If you are reading this, 9/10 you are a mom, and I want you to know that the best parts of you are not attached to that title. However, I understand being unapologetically proud of the heavy load that comes with the responsibility of holding that title.

One cannot walk through the fire without getting burned, and to what degree is up to the individual. Everything that felt like it was in a comfortable place for me caught on fire, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, and even physically. Things that felt just right suddenly felt compromised. Since April last year, I have had to fall in love with this new version of me. That took realizing that the best of me is not attached to what I am to someone else or who I once was at one point or another. Putting titles like Fiance’, founder, and even MOM on a pedestal like trophies at one point was blurring the lines of the role that God wants me to play in the present time. More importantly, I have not yet scratched the surface of the purpose behind the pain that I am continuing to grow through.

It has been a solid year since I triumphed over an illness, immediately going from victim to victor. There are ways to make titles work in your favor and use them for self-motivation; at the end of the day, who are you to you? Many of the titles we hold at such high value are attached to who we are to others or the roles we play in other places, and the only way to thrive at that is to be good to you first.

Lastly, the best thing a mom can do is be happy and calm! When I do not put energy into things that feed my ego and focus more on my health, children, and their happiness, I tend to be more overall pleased.